The impact of parental death on the child

The child understands and understands the world based on his experiences, so when a child faces the death of one of his parents, he considers it reversible, in which case we must explain the events to the child’s understanding.



How to mourn with a child when parental death ?

The death of a parent is one of the most stressful events in a child’s life. Children of all ages are at risk for behavioral and emotional problems, especially depression , when they lose a loved one, especially a parent or close relative . When a parent dies, the child In addition to his absence, he experiences a series of secondary deficiencies, such as the loss of some financial resources, the reduction of the child’s access to another parent, and the deficiencies that result from changing roles and responsibilities in the family.

In the short-term effects of parental death, parental death shows the incidence of mental disorders in children, a few weeks after the death of parents, the relationship shown intense research Hst.dr immediate reaction to the death of a loved children include anxiety, extreme, crying and temper tantrums Severe dependence, separation problems, increased aggression, nightmares and sleep problems, fear of injury, toilet problems, restlessness anorexia , loss of concentration and learning difficulties.
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Correct treatment of the child

The older the child gets, the deeper his understanding of the issues becomes. Before preschool, children consider death reversible and do not feel that the deceased parent will return during the mourning ceremony, but they gradually realize that death is a part of life and must be accepted. We should have a simple definition of death for him, for example, to say that the deceased parent is no longer able to do anything and we are very sorry about this, but we can not do anything.
Adults’ ignorance of the correct way to deal with a child who has lost a parent can lead to misinformation. Try to avoid false myths and explain the events objectively and within the child’s comprehension, because with a lot of definition we have to answer questions that we do not know properly and confuse and worry the child.
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Mistreatment of children

Adults’ mistreatment of children includes:
Waiting for the baby:  Do not wait for the baby. Do not say that mom or dad has gone on a long trip or is going to send you a gift. In this case, you always have to play a role, and by doing so, you face two problems, one is the grief of losing a loved one and the other is not being honest with the child.
Talk about heaven and hell: Sometimes to comfort a child, we say that the deceased has gone to heaven and his place is better than ours. This can increase the child’s suicidal ideation in the future. A phrase like “God brings good people to Himself” also makes the child think that those who are alive are bad people. Avoid giving information that the child does not understand as much as possible.
Giving responsibility to the child: If the child is the first child in the family, he should not be given a heavy responsibility, for example, when the father of the family dies, you should not tell his son that you are the man of the house. With this responsibility, a lot of emotional burden is imposed on the child.
Keeping the child away from the mourning ceremony: Let the child participate in the mourning ceremony and express his feelings. Talk to him about what happened. The child, like the adults, must watch the ceremony closely and even express his sorrow. Children under the age of 8-9 should not attend the funeral, but at an older age they can attend the funeral, even if their appearance has not changed.
Clearing the memory of the deceased: Do not decide in critical stages. Changing the house or destroying the deceased’s belongings becomes a complication in the child and will show its effects in the future. At the end of the mourning ceremony, give the child a small object such as a photograph or watch of the deceased as a symbol and memorial.

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