Positive effects of caressing on raising children
There is a need for caress in us from birth and it stays with us until the moment of death. However, its shape changes. Usually in childhood, receiving unconditional caresses is more common in the family environment, and the school, as our first interaction with society, teaches us that in the social environment, the volume of conditioned caresses is more than the unconditional type.
For centuries, mothers have been aware of the miraculous power of cuddling children to stop them from crying. Now scientists have realized the power of this contact and even use it to treat various diseases.
Children who are touched with love and kindness cry or get sick less than those who do not have loving contact with their parents. New research has also shown that the more parents caress their children, the less aggressive their movements become. The more love and affection these caresses have, the more effective and positive they are in children’s moods. Caressing has also been shown to lower levels of the hormone cortisol (a stress hormone produced in the adrenal glands).
The miracle of caressing children
What effect do caresses, kisses, and affections have on a child’s development? We ask Dr. Pourshaygan about these effects and he gives explanations that you can read in the form of questions and answers.
1. How many types of caresses do we have?
There are different types of caresses, three of the most important of which include: 1. Verbal caresses such as expressing love and encouraging the child 2. Touching caresses such as kissing, hugging, and touching the child 3. Caresses through body language become like loving looks.
2. How much caress does each child need from their parents?
Caressing and loving emotionally can greatly affect the soul and psyche of every human being. This effect becomes much more pronounced when it comes to children because it can promote the child’s emotional development and emotional intelligence.
But in this case, it is not possible to give a numerical criterion that each child needs to be kissed or hugged x times a day. Criteria for people’s emotions and mental development are relative criteria that vary in different people and situations, and often their excesses or deficiencies can be detected, and you can measure it instinctively.
In addition to the soul and mind, the effect of caressing on the child’s body is also significant
3. How does caressing affect children’s physical health?
According to research, the effect of caressing in addition to the soul and mind on the child’s body is also significant. The importance of this issue is to the extent that there are cases of people who did not receive caresses in childhood and developed dryness in the spinal cord area in adulthood.
Another study was conducted on orphans, in which two other groups of infants gave their infants a bottle of milk while their nurses were breastfeeding and did not talk to them. These children were more vulnerable and even had physical problems. That is, their immune systems were weaker against disease.
4. How can parents influence the development of a child’s emotional intelligence through caressing?
Many people in poor emotional communication can not express emotions expressed their emotions. In order for children to grow better emotionally and emotionally, more parental attention is needed. Many parents put the toy in front of their child and think that it is enough for the child to have fun with his toy.
But if you are with your child when he is playing and when he makes something with a toy or makes a creative move, you immediately support him with verbal encouragement or kisses and hugs, it has a great impact on the development of your child’s intelligence.
5. What are the characteristics of children who have higher emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is less inherited and more acquired.
That is, children acquire these skills under the influence of parental behavior, environment, communication with peers, and so on. One of the environments in which children can be seen in the level of emotional intelligence is the school environment where some children are very emotional and supportive and express love to their friends and feel empathy with other children and recognize sadness. And the upset of others is skillful.
On the other hand, some children have difficulty expressing emotions or recognizing the different emotional states of others.