Methods of dealing with and raise the children of others
All parents have experienced being in this situation, when they have to intervene to discipline others because the child’s parents do not do or are not present. Surely in such situations you ask yourself whether you are responsible for raising other people’s children?
If you are confident in how you are raising your child and you have a polite child, but when your child’s playmates are behaving unconventionally and bothering and desperate, you can use the following strategies to deal with them:
Problem: You and a group of parents are on the playground with the children. Your child is playing with toys and suddenly another child comes and tries to take the toy from him. His mother does nothing. Do you have to discipline the child?
Solution: It is not bad to let the children solve the problems themselves. This will help them to be able to solve problems independently without relying on you, but if the other child is older than your child or you think they may have a physical fight, enter. Take action. Stand between two children and talk to them about participating or taking turns. If what you say is not effective, encourage them to play on their own to keep calm.
Problems and solutions
Problem: You and your child are on the playground and at the same time you see that the older child is pushing the younger children and there is a possibility that the children will be injured. The child’s parents are not around. Do you have to discipline the child?
Solution: Parents can well predict that something bad will happen. If you feel that the child’s actions may hurt someone, address the group of children with the words “Calm down!” Or “No pushing!” Use to get children’s attention. If that doesn’t work, you have two options:
1. Move your child away from the group and move to another part of the playground.
2. Ask the child where his mother is to keep him informed of what is happening.
Problem: You see a child throwing your child on the ground. There is no news about the parents of the guilty child. Do you have to discipline the child?
Solution: Violent behavior needs to be intervened and corrected. Take action and ask the dangerous child where his parents are. In crowded playgrounds, mothers may not be able to see everything the child does and therefore are unaware of the child’s misbehavior.
Problem: Your friend has left his child with you and you are at home with the child when the child starts to be stubborn and playful to wash his hands and refuses to come to the dinner table. Do you have to discipline other people’s children?
Solution: Before you take care of your friends’ children, even if you are going to do it for your best friend, ask the child’s parents about the important rules and principles that apply to them. Is the child being reprimanded for misbehavior? What methods are used to reprimand a child? Parents will usually ask you to use their own methods to discipline your child.
Knowing the child’s parenting methods and agreeing to use the same methods or appropriate strategies will help you to have more control over the situation if you see inappropriate behavior on the part of the child. In addition, the use of similar parenting methods will prevent confusion for the child’s parents in the future.
Problem: A friend of your child is attending your child’s birthday party with his or her parents. The child refuses to use the words “please” and “thank you” even in the presence of his parents. Do you have to discipline the child?
Solution: It is difficult not to intervene when the parents of other children ignore and ignore the child’s misbehavior. Instead of disciplining your child in the presence of his or her parents, treat children who follow social etiquette. In such situations you do not need to do anything special, instead of reacting with a smile and saying “Please!” Enough.
Problem: Your child is standing in line while another child rudely puts himself in front of a large number of children standing in line. Do you have to discipline the child?
Solution: A situation in which the parents witness the other child’s misbehavior and have to wait for the parents of the child to be found in the crowd and ask the child to stand up and apologize to everyone is a strange and unpleasant situation. Since this moment may never happen, you can intervene and ask the child to stand at the end of the line and take turns.
Some children may be rude because they have not been educated or their parents have not reacted well in similar situations. Because your child may react rudely to the way you speak, it is best to use a kind and polite tone in dealing with them.