Families who want smart children
Sending in preparation with a certain style and context, enrolling in a preschool with a certain level, sending him to a primary school with a certain reputation, and finally starting to participate in a hundred types of entrance exams and Olympiads, etc., just to turn him into a Talented and genius man? Will our riding on this wave bring our children to the shore of happiness?
Before we get into that, let’s talk briefly about what percentage of our children are naturally gifted and genius. If you remember, we said in previous notes that our attributes are on an inverted bell on which each attribute is graded from low to high.
According to this bell, about 60 to 70% of people are in the average and above-average level in terms of intelligence. About ten percent are smart and about 3? 4% are also intelligent and genius. This is a general rule of thumb, and we have to admit that we can not change our position on this curve much. Of course, not to be completely useless, but for example, to think that by enriching the environment we can change our child’s IQ from 110 to 140 is fundamentally impossible.
* Why are we so smart?
The number of children attending gifted schools does not fit the general and universal rule of the intelligence bell we talked about. Much of this is due to the desire and insistence of us parents to educate our children in such schools. Where do you think this tendency comes from? I will mention a few of these factors. If you have a reason, add it to the article:
– A social wave
Let’s talk a little more frankly. Have you heard the term social wave? Sending our children to gifted schools is more like a social wave that some of us have ridden without sufficient research and knowledge of our child in the hope that our desperate efforts will bear fruit in the not-too-distant future.
Imagining a better future I
have no doubt that one of your greatest wishes, dear parents, is for your children to reach the highest peaks of success in the future. Many parents who insist on educating their children in gifted schools have the same dream as you.
– In search of satisfaction
Some parents did not have the facilities appropriate to their academic talents in their childhood, and now they only feel satisfied if they provide the best possible facilities for their child, which they think is at the forefront of their gifted school.
* Where does this road go?
Our desire to send our ordinary or intelligent children to gifted schools for whatever reason and intention, not only will not make them gifted people but will also blind their existing and potential abilities. This opportunistic plague brings disaster to our innocent child, who will run away from school whenever he can. If your child is not really smart but insists on attending smart schools, he or she will suffer in several ways:
– Loses its vitality
A genius or gifted child needs the same amount of time to do hard homework as a normal character and I needed to do our normal homework. So just as we had the opportunity to have fun and play along with our homework, a real genius will have the same opportunity. But children who are forcibly implanted in the form of intelligence have to spend almost all of their time with their books and notebooks in order to be a little closer to the high standards of the school.
– One-dimensional times come,
if you are careful, most children who go to university from gifted schools do not know anything other than studying; They are not proficient in sports, neither in art nor in technology. Because they always had to keep their heads in the book in order not to fall behind the caravan.
It becomes interesting for you to know that part of the definition of intelligence is devoted to a person’s ability to communicate with others and to cope with and solve life problems, while ordinary children are forcibly gifted. They do not have the opportunity to scratch their heads at all, let alone interact with others and face life issues.
– His self-esteem is threatened. A
a child who is not smart realizes his own situation among other children. On the one hand, he notices the heavy burden that the label of being smart has created for him. It does not take long for these pressures to erode his self-esteem and confidence.
– His talents burn.
Intelligence has many dimensions, and being smart does not necessarily mean being successful in the lesson. Your child may be smart in school, but if he or she is sent to a regular school, he or she will have more opportunities to develop his or her more important talents and may even come close to genius. But if the same child is sent to a gifted school, nothing but a parrot-like memory full of information will fail.
* Is not being smart a flaw ?!
In the end, I will point out a few brief points and leave the conclusion of the discussion to your judgment:
1. Today, in order to be successful, more emphasis is placed on other dimensions of intelligence, such as emotional intelligence.
2. Not all gifted people are necessarily successful in life.
3. Because the more roofs there are, the more snow there will be. Clever and genius people are not only not without problems, but because they are ahead of the majority of society, they have to deal with more problems and troubles.
4. Smart and ordinary children can also become successful, provided they are encouraged and supported to find and nurture their true talents, instead of spending the best part of their lives knocking on the desk.
5. And I will end the last point with a question: Do you think that not being smart, most of which is the product of genetics and inheritance, is beyond our control, or not being fresh and not enjoying life, being one-dimensional, less skilled? Being unaware of our true talents and abilities, which are largely our own hands?
